the art of funerals

not a great topic
the mortuary business?
my first cremation
are you buying a casket for your loved one?
will you witness the cremation?
ask the crematory if he will be cremated with the coffin you purchased
police escorts are great
feathergill mortuary in sd was on point
having a social worker there that day (i'm not sure who called, but it was very cool)
having a viewing on a weekday and the funeral service on a weekend
know ahead of time when all this is happening so you can tell everyone in advance
be sure to meet and talk with friends and family of your loved one during the viewing
find out stories
ask and encourage stories that make you laugh and bring you joy
accept god's grace and his PERFECT timing.
traveling a lot can be a pain
once between the funeral home/service to the site of cremation is not terrible.
perhaps having both service and cremation on location is not bad, but traveling by police escort (a short distance) is peaceful.
celebrating life after funeral services/toasting is fun. maybe it does need to be a lot later so that everyone has a chance to grieve, or not.
cremation can cost anywhere from $350 to $2000; some avg prices are probably $500/$700
Funeral/embalming/viewing definitely has a wide range too, but the package we got was about $2500 not including the casket.
... goodnight.

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